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What To Do When We Feel Lonely?

What To Do When We Feel Lonely?


Sometime, we must have felt lonely. For example when going home on Friday night without any plans for the weekend. Or when sitting in a cafe with a group of friends but still feel lonely.
Loneliness is a common thing that humans feel. A therapist from Canada Julia Kristina defines loneliness as a feeling of being unrelated to anyone we find important and special.
"It's like a strange, empty, and ruined feeling that we do not understand," he said, as quoted from the pyschcentral.com website.
Feelings of loneliness can quickly disappear, but can also often appear. Some of Kristina's clients say their feelings of loneliness feel as if they are alone and feel that no one else feels similar struggles.
Loneliness can be experienced by anyone, but most people do not want to express it. "We are afraid of being open because we may have been rejected before, we may choose to wear masks for fear of being ourselves is not good enough," he said.
That's why when we are lonely, we will be more self-absorbed and our own sense of weighing.
Therapist Jennifer L. Silvershein recommends that lonely people create activities that can revive relationships with others.
"The activity is as simple as making eye contact with others on public transport, writing letters to loved ones, meditating, or playing with pets," Silvershein said.
He added that engaging in volunteer activities can also make us feel happier. "Helping others will make us help ourselves," he said.
Silvershein also reminds his clients to feel like batteries. "Think about what makes the battery repacked again, this can be activities with friends, reading, joining a hobby class, while knowing what makes the battery charge out, for example calling the former, or delaying the task," he said.
We also need to remind ourselves that loneliness is not a fact. Loneliness is not a sign of your being unloved or a loser.
"Our brains may say things like that, but loneliness can not be interpreted as being loved," he said.
Loneliness is not fun, but it can also be a valuable sign. This feeling is a sign that you are not connected to others or to yourself.
It could be an opportunity to get out, build authentic ties with others clearly not just in social media. Discard a sense of alienation or insignificance, listen to the signal the body gives and take it as a new opportunity.
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